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My situation, and a list of resources Hey everyone. My dad is 73 and was diagnosed with Parkinson's about a year ago. My mom is 66. My mom visits my grandmother, who has a live-in helper, once a day. Recently Dad has been beginning to fall and hit his head, maybe 3-4 times this year already. His gait has changed a lot because of Parkinson's and it's hard for him to get around or communicate clearly. He's also pretty stubborn and set in his ways, and he and Mom have been fairly antagonistic towards each other (arguing a lot) for most of my life. My mom feels stressed out, and wishes my sister or I could move home. She was dropping hints that I should just move in so I can get used to it, so I wrote my parents an email a while back explaining that I love them but don't want to move in with them. She's also not used to handling finances or doing chores, as my Dad used to cover these areas. I'm 36; I moved out when I was 18, and so did my sister. My folks are both super great people, but they can also be controlling and hard to deal with emotionally, though they don't do it on purpose. My sister and I both would have a really hard time living with my folks, or even moving back to the area. There's also some cultural pressure/expectations so my mom probably feels hurt, though she wouldn't come out and say it. I feel really sad that I can't be there for them more. If they lived closer, I'd stop by as much as possible. COVID is making this harder, because it's a 7 hour drive and at the outset of the first wave we thought it was safer to wait it out and didn't visit them for a really long time. I asked if they'd be open to moving closer to where I live, and my Mom is not. I also understand that she needs to be near my grandmother and just prefers that area, and dislikes where I live. I even considered moving closer, but it'd be really tough. I've basically lived in a religious setting as a volunteer for 13 years, and given up seeking a normal career and more higher educat

My situation, and a list of resources Hey everyone. My dad is 73 and was diagnosed with Parkinson's about a year ago. My mom is 66. My mom visits my grandmother, who has a live-in helper, once a day. Recently Dad has been beginning to fall and hit his head, maybe 3-4 times this year already. His gait has changed a lot because of Parkinson's and it's hard for him to get around or communicate clearly. He's also pretty stubborn and set in his ways, and he and Mom have been fairly antagonistic towards each other (arguing a lot) for most of my life. My mom feels stressed out, and wishes my sister or I could move home. She was dropping hints that I should just move in so I can get used to it, so I wrote my parents an email a while back explaining that I love them but don't want to move in with them. She's also not used to handling finances or doing chores, as my Dad used to cover these areas. I'm 36; I moved out when I was 18, and so did my sister. My folks are both super great people, but they can also be controlling and hard to deal with emotionally, though they don't do it on purpose. My sister and I both would have a really hard time living with my folks, or even moving back to the area. There's also some cultural pressure/expectations so my mom probably feels hurt, though she wouldn't come out and say it. I feel really sad that I can't be there for them more. If they lived closer, I'd stop by as much as possible. COVID is making this harder, because it's a 7 hour drive and at the outset of the first wave we thought it was safer to wait it out and didn't visit them for a really long time. I asked if they'd be open to moving closer to where I live, and my Mom is not. I also understand that she needs to be near my grandmother and just prefers that area, and dislikes where I live. I even considered moving closer, but it'd be really tough. I've basically lived in a religious setting as a volunteer for 13 years, and given up seeking a normal career and more higher educat

Great Link in Text on AAA - Area Agency on Aging... If you don't know who to go to, this is the free resource group! [https://www.nextavenue.org/use-area-agency-aging/](https://www.nextavenue.org/use-area-agency-aging/) ​ What sucks about the article is just the site. Soft Fire Wall, but it's really worth navigating through this to get to the heart of the article. In the US, each county or city has a free [Area Agency on Aging](https://www.n4a.org/files/LocalLeadersAAA.pdf) division, despite the various name it might have. If you don't know who to turn to, where to go or how to start, this agency is *Step One*! As my 86 year old step mom says every time we speak: "Aging ain't for pussies" Yeah, she's pretty humorous. Good luck out there...

Great Link in Text on AAA - Area Agency on Aging... If you don't know who to go to, this is the free resource group! [https://www.nextavenue.org/use-area-agency-aging/](https://www.nextavenue.org/use-area-agency-aging/) ​ What sucks about the article is just the site. Soft Fire Wall, but it's really worth navigating through this to get to the heart of the article. In the US, each county or city has a free [Area Agency on Aging](https://www.n4a.org/files/LocalLeadersAAA.pdf) division, despite the various name it might have. If you don't know who to turn to, where to go or how to start, this agency is *Step One*! As my 86 year old step mom says every time we speak: "Aging ain't for pussies" Yeah, she's pretty humorous. Good luck out there...